COMPATIBILITY IN A RELATIONSHIP…

I one day sat, and wondered, why am I not able to attract the right person to Myself…
What ‘blocks’ have I created in my path, that is hindering me from finding the ‘right’ person…

There were a few…fear of unknown, fear of being dumped, fear of being hurt, fear of the past recurring…

How do I complete with this…

a)      Fear of unknown – life itself is unpredictable…nothing is certain or permanent…that’s the world we live in….no companion is permanent…

             We all move on to new things, new experiences, new relationships, all for the better..

b)      Fear of being dumped – life again, is filled with ups and downs…people come and go from our lives…holding on to them, would be like placing huge boulders in a fast flowing stream, which slows down the flow of the ‘water’....both ours and theirs…

             Be like the smooth flowing water in the river, flowing freely to take shape within the banks   
             of the river…

c)       Fear of being hurt – here, we have to face fear in the face…saying what one has to say, and doing what one has to do…then, fear will not touch us….

              The only way to be free of fear of being hurt is to feel free from it…the feeling that nothing
              can hurt us….and even if so, the physical effects of it cannot ‘HURT’ our soul….

d)      Fear of the past recurring – life is a series of events/lessons…once the lesson is learnt, the same lesson is not repeated…

              Again, be free and not tied to past events – if we ‘free’ ourselves, nothing can clutch on to
              us…

Life is beautiful, but its also a magnet – if we coat it with negativity, it will attract its similar likes…likewise, if we coat it with positivity, we will attract a host lot of positivity…

But there was one more thing, which remained in my subtle thoughts/memory/subconscious – I had always looked out for ‘compatability’ in potential partner…be it in faith/belief, lifestyle, profession, academic background, and the list goes on….

Then it occurred to me, there was actually NO NEED for a compatibility check….for we are all different….and people change with time – and so do their faiths, lifestyle, professions….

We have seen couples moving apart – for they no more find themselves compatible to their partners…

The secret is – to NOT EXPECT our partners to CHANGE in order for them to fit within our compatibility criterias…it will never work..

The only way is for us to ACCEPT THEM as they are and for them to ACCEPT US as we are…..

This way, both will have their SPACE to develop themselves and grow in a relationship…

Thus, both will appreciate the SPACE that exists between both of them..the INNER SPACE…

After all, life is A journey WITHIN….the journey from oneself TO ONESELF….