I one day sat, and wondered, why am I not
able to attract the right person to Myself…
What ‘blocks’ have I created in my path, that is hindering me from finding the ‘right’ person…
of the river…
can hurt us….and even if so, the physical effects of it cannot ‘HURT’ our soul….
us…
What ‘blocks’ have I created in my path, that is hindering me from finding the ‘right’ person…
There were a few…fear of unknown, fear of
being dumped, fear of being hurt, fear of the past recurring…
How do I complete with this…
a)
Fear of unknown – life itself
is unpredictable…nothing is certain or permanent…that’s the world we live in….no
companion is permanent…
We all move on
to new things, new experiences, new relationships, all for the better..
b)
Fear of being dumped – life
again, is filled with ups and downs…people come and go from our lives…holding
on to them, would be like placing huge boulders in a fast flowing stream, which
slows down the flow of the ‘water’....both ours and theirs…
Be like the
smooth flowing water in the river, flowing freely to take shape within the
banks of the river…
c)
Fear of being hurt – here, we
have to face fear in the face…saying what one has to say, and doing what one
has to do…then, fear will not touch us….
The only way to
be free of fear of being hurt is to feel free from it…the feeling that nothing
can hurt us….and even if so, the physical effects of it cannot ‘HURT’ our soul….
d)
Fear of the past recurring –
life is a series of events/lessons…once the lesson is learnt, the same lesson
is not repeated…
Again, be free
and not tied to past events – if we ‘free’ ourselves, nothing can clutch on to
us…
Life is
beautiful, but its also a magnet – if we coat it with negativity, it will
attract its similar likes…likewise, if we coat it with positivity, we will attract
a host lot of positivity…
But there was one more thing, which
remained in my subtle thoughts/memory/subconscious – I had always looked out
for ‘compatability’ in potential partner…be it in faith/belief, lifestyle, profession,
academic background, and the list goes on….
Then it occurred to me, there was actually
NO NEED for a compatibility check….for we are all different….and people change
with time – and so do their faiths, lifestyle, professions….
We have seen couples moving apart – for
they no more find themselves compatible to their partners…
The secret is – to NOT EXPECT our partners
to CHANGE in order for them to fit within our compatibility criterias…it will
never work..
The only way is for us to ACCEPT THEM as
they are and for them to ACCEPT US as we are…..
This way, both will have their SPACE to
develop themselves and grow in a relationship…
Thus, both will appreciate the SPACE that
exists between both of them..the INNER SPACE…
After all, life is A journey WITHIN….the
journey from oneself TO ONESELF….
